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Whatever the destination, there's always a choice. It might not always seem like it, but the choice is there. Many times we don't realise and get stuck on paths that we don't want to be on, because we didn't choose them. Some paths will be harder than others but if we are in control and have chosen to be there then we know where we are and can use all of our skills and resources to manage the ascent. Even when it seems like we're on a path we haven't chosen and the going is hard, we have a choice of how to respond to that path. For example, we can sit down and cry about it/ wallow/ run around like a headless chicken, or we can recognise where we are, plan how to progress with the journey and take the next steps. We may choose all of these options! The point is that the choice is always ours. When we embrace that we take back our power in any situation. All we actually have to do is take one small step at a time.

Anthony De Mello has "Four Steps to Wisdom" in his book Awareness (1990, Zondervan):

1. "Get in touch with negative feelings that you're not even aware of." It's only through recognising and acknowledging these feelings that you can do something about them.

2. "Understand that the feeling is in you. not in reality." We spend vast amounts of time and energy trying to change external circumstances and people.

3. "Don't define your essential self in terms of that feeling." For example, saying "there is depression here" is very different from saying "I am depressed."

4. Change your perception of the situation. "You are the one who needs to change... You keep insisting, "I feel good because the world is right." Wrong! The world is right because I feel good."

So, my challenge to you is to try this out for yourself. See what changes you can make today.

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At the beginning of July I went to #RetroFriday, a networking event that happens every couple of months at Bridge House in Honley (Social Progress & Creative Analysis). These businesses are big supporters of Fairtrade and often there is a Fairtrade theme. They do a great job of raising awareness in the Holme Valley, where we live and work. It was a fun morning involving fairtrade cups of coffee, banana smiles and a quiz, besides the usual networking. The highlight for me (sad, I know!) had to be the signed fairtrade cotton bag by Patrick Stewart, saying "make it so!"
 
I also, wholeheartedly, support Fairtrade too. If you come to my therapy room you will find all my tea, coffee, sugar etc. are Fairtrade. But why do I bother? Is it just for show; a PR exercise? No! I support Fairtrade because I believe in not only a fairer life for people everywhere, but a world where people are empowered and have a chance to lead a dignified life. Don't we all deserve this? We have the power to achieve this if we all make small changes. So let's do this. Let's work together towards life- a better life for all!
 
3 small steps to making a difference:
  1. Swap your cuppa
  2. Enjoy a sweet treat
  3. Get involved- www.holmevalleyfairtrade.com
To find out more about Fairtrade visit www.fairtrade.org.uk

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Do you have a passion for life? Without passion, life can become dull and grey. So, what’s the secret to a life that’s full and glorious in all its technicolour? I believe the secret’s in the detail.

“Find something you’re passionate about and stay tremendously interested in it.” ~ Julia Child

This is what mindfulness is all about- being passionate about life; living each moment and being tremendously interested in it. In this way we can appreciate the details that we often miss. Being fully present in each moment allows us to ‘colour in’ the experience instead of a grey life passing us by. It gives us the opportunity to tune in to our bodies and fully know ourselves. So, here are five simple things you can do today to help you journey towards a rich and vibrant life.

  1. 1.  Take a moment to notice your breath.
  2. 2.  Really listen to someone when they speak to you.
  3. 3. Pay attention to what you’re eating: notice the taste and texture; take time to chew.
  4. 4. Watch the sky.
  5. 5. Look at your own face in the mirror as if seeing it for the first time.

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Last night I did my first ever aquathlon- that's a swim/run race for the uninitiated of you! Now, neither swimming nor running are things that come naturally to me. I was always the kid who was too scared to jump in at the deep end and didn't like getting splashed. As for the running- it was something I quite enjoyed as a child but I never particularly excelled at it and as I became a woman my figure was not the wiry, athletic type that lends itself to running.

This is a question that I am often asked and very recently, someone asked me the question below. I thought it might be useful to share it with you and an example of the kind of answer I gave. The question was in relation to having previous experience of hypnotherapy for smoking.

Q: "Does it work for everyone or are some people just not possible to hypnotize? If the latter, any idea why?"

A: In short, yes, I do believe that it can work for everyone however there are times it doesn't. In hypnotherapy, the client is in control of the experience and can choose to let themselves go into a trance or not. It is not the same as the stage hypnosis that people see on TV.
With hypnotherapy there are occasions when it doesn't work but it's most likely because there's something, usually in the subconscious, that either doesn't want to give up (in the case of smoking) even though consciously you might really want to. If a client came to me who had had hypnotherapy before for quitting smoking I'd want to explore why it's not worked in the past.
I believe that if a person can dream or day dream then it is possible for them to be in a hypnotic trance, hypnosis is just helping a person to reach the stage of consciousness that is like REM sleep. Results may vary though and although hypnotherapy is powerful, it isn't a magic wand! Most of the time treatment needs to be accompanied by some hard work from the client. I know this having had hypnosis myself. I also use self-hypnosis. Recently I did some self-hypnosis to get rid of migraines and it was really hard dealing with some of the issues that came up but it was worth it!
It's also important that any hypnosis is tailor made for you- if the therapist was just working off a general script it's less likely to be effective.

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I offer hypnotherapy and mindfulness in the Holme Valley, easily accessible from Huddersfield, Holmfirth, Manchester, Sheffield, Leeds, Bradford and the West Yorkshire region.

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